Founder's Notes

Thin Lines: The Parasocial Artist-Fan Relationship

The artist’s relationship with their fans is a bit of an unspoken contract: fans power an artist’s success, and, as a result, the artist must do everything in their power to connect and, furthermore, please their fans. But where do you cross the line? At what point do you separate the art from the artist? If you work in the music business, you already know this: these lines are very blurry.

Doja Cat is someone who has very publicly attempted, more than once over the years, to keep her fans in check. In a since deleted Threads account, she recently retaliated at her fans over a variety of issues: criticizing her for who she chooses to date, calling themselves "kittenz" or supporting her “cash grabs” pop-leaning tracks like “Planet Her”. While her approach is definitely on the unorthodox side, she’s doing what most artists don't typically have the courage to do: draw a line with their fans. Doja Cat has always had a unique relationship with her fandom but things seem to have taken a more radical turn recently, as expressed in her recent “Attention” single. Whether that's her authentic approach to handling fans, or a tactic that leverages people's appetite for shock value content, this is not the first time Doja draws our attention to the concept of parasocial relationships. This intricate dynamic blurs the lines between reality and perception, leaving both artists and fans in an intricate dance of connection and detachment.

The term "parasocial relationship" was coined in the 1950s by psychologists Horton and Wohl to describe the illusion of a one-sided bond formed between media consumers and the personalities they see on screen. Over the years, this concept has evolved with the advent of social media, enabling fans to follow artists' personal lives, thoughts, and interactions more closely than ever before. Through behind-the-scenes content, spontaneous IG and TikTok lives, artists open up avenues for fans to perceive them beyond their creative output.

This transformation has allowed fans to feel intimately connected to the artists whose music they love. However, this intimacy is often an illusion. Fans may feel as though they know the artist on a personal level and demand the type of behavior that matches their expectation. This asymmetrical relationship typically leads to a sense of extreme attachment on the fan's part, which can often manifest in radical ways - as we've recently seen with Bebe Rexha's hospitalization after a fan threw his cellphone at her face back in June; Pink’s ash remains gift handed over by a fan on stage this summer; or Phoebe Bridgers' stalker from a few years back. Others, like Travis Scott, have built a reputation around intentionally engaging with fans in a way that encourages that type of behavior. When these types of boundaries are crossed, however,  the consequences can be harmful or even deadly.

Fame is a double-edged sword. Most artists struggle with maintaining the delicate balance between their true selves and the persona they project online. The pressure to consistently engage and share aspects of their lives can be overwhelming, as Tokimonsta pointed out on her IG the other day. The parasocial relationship raises important ethical considerations. Fans may feel entitled to opinions on an artist's personal life or decisions, sometimes crossing boundaries and invading privacy.

The artist-fan bond is a complex interplay of perception, connection, and detachment. It underscores the transformative power of digital media in shaping how we interact with public figures - whether it's in entertainment, politics or health & wellness. While this relationship can provide a sense of belonging and inspiration, it's crucial for both artists and fans to navigate its thin lines with delicate care.

Founders Note: Redefining Success

What does success mean to you? Is it a million streams, a record deal or an eight figure valuation for your business? If, like me, you’ve pivoted your ambitions once or twice or a bunch of times over the years, I’m here to tell you: it’s okay to change your mind.

I’m writing this from my hometown in Romania, a small city that’s nowhere near anyone’s radar. The teen version of me was so desperate to leave it all behind that each time I had to return to see my family I couldn’t shake off the feeling that I’m taking a step back in my journey. Until about a year ago. That’s when things started shifting in a major way for me from an internal compass perspective. Suddenly, the things that used to bring me the most joy were now making me feel indifferent at best, or close to giving me a panic attack at worst. Among them – inbox zero, traveling every other week, late night raves and drinking (I still love live music and some DJ nights though), packing 10 meetings into my day, IRL shopping. Over the past year, they have slowly but surely been getting replaced with new yearnings – stillness, spending 3h preparing a meal, patiently listening to my family stories that I’ve already heard a hundred times before, writing (more than just emails and decks), seasons (yes, you start missing that after spending almost a decade in LA).

Is it me or is boring the new cool? You might say I’m getting old but, oddly enough, I feel younger than ever before. I’m just really enjoying my festina lente era, and it’s okay if you are too. Worked for the likes of Napoleon and Augustus, I guess, and it’s all the rave with personal development gurus out there today (even more proof that LA got to me). Was I losing touch with the same ambition that got me here, I thought? 

Turns out it’s quite the contrary. My intuition has slowly been pushing me to laser-focus the type of energy I was putting into things and reconsider how I was spending it. I instinctively knew that in order to bring my best self into anything required a balance between hard work and smart work. That didn’t mean I wouldn’t be putting in 16h work days anymore; it just meant that, when it did happen, I knew that I’d have to make it up with off days. It also means that I now have a much clearer, incremental process about achieving my wildest dreams. And contrary to what one may think, the dreams are getting more ambitious than ever before. I simply understood that, in order to reach the high mountaintop, you must break down the journey into smaller steps and be as consistent as possible with your commitment.

And since we’re all music people here, it doesn’t necessarily mean waking up at 6am every day and grinding out the perfect schedule on a daily basis. It does, however imply, that you put in some work daily – and work can sometimes mean taking half a day to clean your house, 1h to go for a walk, 2h to talk to your mentor or 4h to volunteer at our local charity. Or maybe you do need that daily structure. You do you and find whatever helps enter your flow state. And if two months or two years later you change course, that’s absolutely fine. In fact, it’s most likely a positive thing. The amount of time it takes doesn’t really matter as it’s proportional with the depth of the task at hand.

This is why most music marketer’s advice for independent artists nowadays says that you should focus on your 1000 true fans first. It doesn’t mean you should stop at 1000 fans, it simply breaks down the daunting task of becoming a successful artist into a systematic process. The first step in that process is developing a strong relationship with this early group of people because they will unlock an initial level of financial support in addition to providing you with feedback that will help you finetune your music and your identity as a creative. This applies to music entrepreneurs and executives alike - whether it means focusing on your first 100 customers or your first mentor. 

In other words, take it slow and enjoy the process. The more present you are with the journey, the more likely it is that it will take you to more and more interesting places, pushing you to redefine what success means to you at every corner.

Living In A Barbie World

Photo: Courtesy of Warner Bros. Pictures

Are you tired of living in a Barbie world? Too bad and sorry, not sorry for adding yet another Barbie commentary to your digital desk. The iconic doll has pervaded our lives to such an extent this year that I couldn’t help myself. I will aim to keep it music related.

The extent: A total of 20 artists are involved in the soundtrack (including Ryan Gosling whose music career runs deep, and yes I’m also counting Mark Ronson). Mattel’s licensing team locked in 100+ deals with brands spanning fashion, gaming, hospitality, food & more 🥵The movie is expected to gross $100M = Warner’s total marketing spend (it does not include Mattel budget).

The why: Inspired by Marvel’s resurrection, Mattel sees opportunity in exponentially reviving Barbie’s IP through franchising beyond the toy aisle. The campaign’s snowballing effect has been so effective that other businesses around the world hopped on the trend to include pink variations of their offerings. Jealous.

The music takeaway: Much can be learned from a marketing & branding angle - check out this IG post or Twitter thread we did for those insights; before you ask, yes we did mention the massive marketing budget most of us don’t have but that doesn’t mean there’s nothing to learn there.

What I’ll add is this: music wasn’t an afterthought but a similarly strategic tool that was leveraged in an incredibly smart way. Whilst the Barbie marketing strategy had a nostalgic focus, Mark Ronson and team carefully curated a diverse lineup of (mostly) young talent with a fresh sound.

If you're a legacy artist, there are many opportunities for you to tap into a younger audience with the right type of partnership (think Kate Bush x Stranger Things although you’re not limited to film & tv; in fact, it’s better to think outside the box here and go to places others aren’t thinking of). For younger talent that’s struggling with TikTok, remember that 30+ year-olds have deep pockets (2bn people still use Facebook daily) and parents, in particular, would do anything to invest in their children’s happiness and education. Something to think about.

Andreea Magdalina, Founder at shesaid.so